That's it. The twins have gone to university. One to Leeds, the other Southampton. The Leeds twin wasn't so bad. He's a confident young man and his digs (and the students sharing) were really nice. The second lad not so good. He's very quiet and of slight build. Though very bright he needs to be cajoled quite a bit to get him out of his room*. His digs are pretty grim. We turned up there and right outside was a big Drum 'n' Bass rig and a load of well built second year, rugger-bugger alpha males. I'm sure all are nice but I just can't see my lad fitting in. It's a worry.
I could see what little there is of my boy's self confidence just ebb away. It was hard to leave him. We made up his room and left him with supplies for a few weeks but still, it I was like leaving an innocent choirboy at an open prison. I gave him a few words of encouragement, a hug and a book called The Rules of Life which I think might help.
It's make or break time - for both parents and child. It's difficult to see both go at once.
So now home is rather empty and it's hard to walk past their bare rooms. A cold silence has befallen the place and wifey is bereft. I arranged some flowers to be sent to her workplace today and had to write the order for fear I'd blub.
Gawd knows what it must have been like parents sending their boys to war !
*He's a qualified dinghy instructor and safety boat driver, so we're hoping he'll fit in at the university sailing club.